By Evelia Saucedo, MS, AMFT Couple's treatment is not effective when the couple does not have the same goal of working on the relationship. For instance, if one partner is open to therapy and the other partner is not fully committed to treatment or when there is no honesty in the relationship, when there is domestic violence or when one of the partners has already checked out, according to Relationshipcounselinggroup.com (August 30, 2020). Sometimes, when one partner or both have individual difficulties,[...]
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By: Manuel Cruz, MA LMFT Emotional reactivity can be defined as the tendency to experience frequent and intense emotional arousal. In relationships, this happens when one individual is triggered by the behavior or emotion of the other. This trigger causes a fierce emotion and subsequent reaction that fuels a relational cycle filled with conflict, blame, and hurt feelings that, over time, can cause a relationship to break down. An inability to regulate one’s emotions is at the root of negative emotional[...]
By: Jordana Moore M.S. LMFT Social media has become a significant part of our lives since the 90s, when it was first created. From Myspace to Tik Tok, our ability to connect with others via social media has transformed over the years and, consequently, has changed our lives. Research shows that 7 out of 10 people use social media. Still, arguably we all interact with it to some capacity as it shows up in the news, during sports broadcasts, in commercials, and many other ways beyond our control. From a[...]
By: Megan Montague LMFT “I’m so triggered!” has become a common expression these days, but what does it mean actually to be triggered? Being triggered essentially means that something in the present brings up similar feelings about something that’s happened in the past. How do you know when you’ve been triggered? A good indicator of being triggered is when your response to something feels larger or more intense than what is happening. An excellent example of this can be seen in the case of a wo[...]
By Evelia Saucedo, MS, AMFT Making a connection with your therapist is essential. Sometimes, it may take two to three sessions to figure out if the therapist is a fit for you, and in some cases, you will know from day one. Connection to your therapist is essential because it will determine your treatment level and comfort, and progress. If you struggle to make a connection, chances are you will not be comfortable or even trust your therapist. You don’t have to stay with the therapist if you are not com[...]
by: Veronica Salcido-Rodriguez One of my favorite homework strategies in therapy is to Journal. When people think of journaling, they may think of a diary and think diaries are for teenage girls to express their feelings about a crush. While that may true, journaling or a diary can also be so much more than that, and I believe it is. A journal can be the place where you can write about sadness, anger, happiness, or any thought you may have or that you keep thinking about. It is a place where you can expre[...]
Evelia Saucedo, AMFT Building a solid relationship with your children is essential, just as important for your children to have strong relationships with others. Other responsibilities will sometimes get in the way of spending time with your children; it is crucial to find the time and space to spend some time together, even during breakfast or dinner. Building the presence around your child will make a significant impact in helping them feel confident and develop resilience, according to caringforkids.c[...]
By: Sebastian Vasilescu, LMFT What is the role of the therapist in the therapy room? Is it healer? Is it liberator? Or unbeknown to the therapist, is it oppressor? As psychotherapists there is power and privilege we carry into the room with us, no matter how slight the difference in power may be, it is present in our interactions with clients. Self-of-therapist work, seen as an exploration of a therapists own history and experience; attending to our own axiologies (values and value systems), beliefs, idea[...]
By: Kelsey Harrold, M.S. Considering engaging in couples’ therapy and whether to trust a stranger with something as important as your romantic relationship can be a daunting task. It takes courage and an ability to take a risk to come in and make a commitment to couples’ work. As a relational therapist I consider it an honor when a couple comes into my room and allows me to support them during their therapeutic process. My hope is that some of the following information will provide clarity on what to[...]
In my profession as a psychologist I have discovered many of my clients are struggling with the belief they are selfish. When I asked them what it means for them to be selfish, I usually get the same response, “I can’t say no to others, that would be selfish.” They explain that they have been raised and taught by their parents/caregivers that while being kind and forgiving, they must always think of others before themselves. To insure the needs of others are met before their own. The[...]