By Evelia Saucedo, MS, AMFT Couple's treatment is not effective when the couple does not have the same goal of working on the relationship. For instance, if one partner is open to therapy and the other partner is not fully committed to treatment or when there is no honesty in the relationship, when there is domestic violence or when one of the partners has already checked out, according to Relationshipcounselinggroup.com (August 30, 2020). Sometimes, when one partner or both have individual difficulties,[...]
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By: Manuel Cruz, MA LMFT Emotional reactivity can be defined as the tendency to experience frequent and intense emotional arousal. In relationships, this happens when one individual is triggered by the behavior or emotion of the other. This trigger causes a fierce emotion and subsequent reaction that fuels a relational cycle filled with conflict, blame, and hurt feelings that, over time, can cause a relationship to break down. An inability to regulate one’s emotions is at the root of negative emotional[...]
By: Megan Montague LMFT “I’m so triggered!” has become a common expression these days, but what does it mean actually to be triggered? Being triggered essentially means that something in the present brings up similar feelings about something that’s happened in the past. How do you know when you’ve been triggered? A good indicator of being triggered is when your response to something feels larger or more intense than what is happening. An excellent example of this can be seen in the case of a wo[...]
Evelia Saucedo, AMFT Building a solid relationship with your children is essential, just as important for your children to have strong relationships with others. Other responsibilities will sometimes get in the way of spending time with your children; it is crucial to find the time and space to spend some time together, even during breakfast or dinner. Building the presence around your child will make a significant impact in helping them feel confident and develop resilience, according to caringforkids.c[...]
Written by: ROBERT DAVID CASAS, LCSW Disclosure: To begin I would like to disclose that this guide is not exclusively for children, teens and adults diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, but has been effective for many of my client’s in developing greater insight with social boundaries. I have also adapted this guide which is originally from the book called A Five Is Against The Law by Karl Dunn Baron. It is often that I meet with clients who are referred to therapy services due to negative experi[...]
Written By Luis Maimoni, LMFT #105978 Dating: love it or hate it, it's something we all go through to find intimate relationships. Unfortunately, it can get complicated. Here are five hot tips for avoiding the nots and finding the hots! Hot Tip #1 – Make Your List Before you venture out, think about what you're looking for. Smart? Witty? Legs, hair, or butt? How tall? Religious/spiritual practices? Do spelling and punctuation matter? Politics? Bad girl or Prince Charming? Children? Education? Comm[...]
Written by: Ashlee Wong, AMFT Relationships are often fraught with opportunities for miscommunication and hurt feelings. It can be a natural, expected process when two separate people are in a relationship together whether we mean romantic partners, friends, or even parents and children. However, we also have a responsibility to apologize whenever there has been such a rift in the relationship to maintain the desire to continue moving forward with the relationship. If I were to ask you to apologize to the[...]
Written by: Ashlee Wong, MA When I was younger, I had dreams of being an actor. Not that I had any real talent to speak of, but I used to imagine myself in the movies or TV shows I watched and thought that I could be a successful actor living a wonderful, glamorous life in Hollywood. I very quickly realized that I don’t have the personality that would support a career with any real longevity. And yet, my thoughts of being an actor were never fully inaccurate; I just didn’t know that there was a real-l[...]
Written by: EVELIA SAUCEDO, MA, AMFT Dealing with a child’s tantrum is not easy. Many times, parents feel frustration over the child’s behavior. In some cases, parents feel they have done everything possible to figure out what the child wants and, in the end, find themselves yelling or lashing out at the child. At times, parents will attempt to talk to the child and the more they cry or yell, the parent will resort to yelling back or give an indefinite consequence. Children’s behavior[...]
Written by: Raquel Martinez, MSW One of the main and most common ways that people fail to communicate is by making assumptions. We have all done it! We assume based on what we think is true - based on our own beliefs/ prior experiences. For example, you might be on a date and you assume that you are expected to pay for the meal. The trash is full, and you assume your partner will take it out. Your daughter gives you a short response to your question and you assume she is giving you attitude. These are ass[...]