Dealing with Toxic Parents

By Evelia Saucedo AMFT

Dealing with difficult parents can cause stressors for many individuals, sometimes it can lead to impulsive behaviors, anxiety, depression, and can be damaging to their children. When is a parent considered toxic? When some of the following characteristics are in place: Someone who gaslights their child, has tendencies of manipulating their child, verbal, or physical abuse, controlling, disrespects boundaries, has grandiosity, does not think of your needs or feelings, amongst others. As individuals go through life, it becomes difficult to deal with the toxicity of their parents. You can make a difference; the change starts with you.

Check your expectations and make sure they are realistic; if you are expecting your parents to change; it’s time to reflect and ask if that expectation is within your control. How do you overcome toxic parents? You can begin by setting healthy boundaries for YOU to meet your needs.

Here are some ways to consider change:

Don’t try to change them

Stop trying to please them

Set firm and healthy boundaries with them

Be mindful of the information you share with them

Learn their limitations

Validate them

Reference:

McQueen, J. (21). How To Deal With Toxic Parents. Retrieved from https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/toxic-parents