Self-Compassion

The benefits of developing a relationship with self (Part II)

Written by: Robert David Casas, MSW

Whether it be with our family, friends, significant others or even our pets, we are developing/maintaining relationships on a daily basis. Relationships can be both rewarding and exhausting, but it is very common to forget that you can also benefit from developing a relationship with yourself.

To begin lets touch back on what we explored in Part I of this blog where we can practice self compassion by asking ourselves this question:

“If your best friend was going through your current situation, would you treat them any differently than you treat yourself?”

Many people may find that their responses to this question may be filled with words of encouragement, love and support. Others might reflect that they can also give the best advice to others but have a difficult time following healthy advice themselves. And if you fall into either of these categories, you might benefit from increased development of a relationship with self. Below are some ways to begin developing further self-compassion:

1) Identify and engage in positive activities that you enjoy

2) Take a break from social media

3) Exercise

4) Light a candle

5) Release tension through stretching, yoga, meditation and/or breathing

And remember:

You have the right for what you want

You have the right to say no to requests or demands you can’t meet

You have the right to change your mind

You have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect

These are just a few ways we can begin exploring activities that are dedicated for ourselves and foundational steps towards increasing positive mood, motivation and interactions with self and others. If you are having trouble creating time for self or feel that you would like to gain further insight into self-compassion, then therapy might be a great place to start!

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

Written by: Robert David Casas, MSW, Registered Associate Clinical Social Worker 84014 under the supervision of Nancy Ruiz-Barnes, MSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker 79552