Fears of Motherhood
Written By: Nancy Ruiz-Barnes, LCSW
Happy, overwhelmed, worry and possibly sad. These are possible feelings when you find out that you are pregnant. Most people are happy to be pregnant, but there are some of us that have mix feelings about pregnancy. For some of us it can be the worry of having a baby and knowing that things will change. The worries that may arise during the news of pregnancy is how will my pregnancy will be, worries about not being experience taking care of a baby, who will be the babysitter, or I’m not ready for a baby at this time.
As woman we experience different fears and emotions about pregnancy and are unsure what to do. Most women will not say anything due to fears of what will others say or think of me if I’m expressing all these fears. As a therapist and as a mother myself I can let you know most women have these fears and sometimes feeling lonely on decisions that we will have to make possibly on our own. When you find out about a pregnancy the biggest fear is not knowing what is the next step. For many of us it is difficult to let family or friends know about our worries or fears, due to feeling that we would be judge or the guilt that family places on us.
Many of us are not aware that we are able to talk to someone neutral that will not judge us for the concerns or thoughts that you may have during this time. Some clinics do offer therapist on site for you to meet with or you can be referred to see a therapist outside the clinic. A therapist will be able to listen to some of your concerns about being pregnant and discuss how to be able to better manage your worries and fears about pregnancy. In addition, a therapist will be neutral to help you make a decision, as they will be able to provide more information to you. As a reminder, whichever decisions you make you have to remind yourself that ultimately that decision was right at that moment.
Written By: Nancy Ruiz-Barnes, LCSW